You know what it is like when you have had a baby.
Everyone is keen to know your birth story, how long was it, did it hurt? Did you have pain relief?
And for those who haven’t given birth what do the contractions and labour feel like?
All relevant and totally normal questions right?
Well yes, I agree.
But it has led me to ponder the question of just how much detail do you give.
How much information before it becomes too much, I wonder.
I ask the question because the other day I found myself sharing my birth story with a lady I know. We don’t know each other particularly well, I had met her maybe a couple of times at the time I was telling the story. It was her who asked me about it though, I must add, I don’t make a habit of launching into my birth story to every unsuspecting person who asks how I am doing.
Don’t get me wrong, she was very interested, but on reflection I fear I *might* have been guilty of over sharing.
Like hugely over sharing.
You know, the sort of thing that you would share with your close girlfriends as just part of normal conversation but perhaps a conversation not quite so suited to a civilised drinks party with a woman you hardly know.
It is hard to know just how much detail to share but as we were chatting I found myself talking about length of labour, description of pain.
So far so good.
But then suddenly I was mouthing off about stitches, how many, location, bleeding, how much.
Bowel movements how often, how soon after birth , consistency!
Ok ok not consistency, even I have some sort of filter, although it is clearly more of colander with a hole in it than a nice fine sieve, letting through only the finer details.
Seriously, I was unstoppable, on and on I gabbled delving into more and more detailed information. I am going to put it down to severe sleep deprivation, but between you and me I think even if I wasn’t knackered I would have probably said pretty much the same thing.
I don’t know it seems like when talking about pregnancy and child birth anything goes, people love to hear all the gory details don’t they?
Or is that just me?
So, back to my original question.
Just how much is too much information?